PERKS ON LIVING ALONE 2

Now that you must have gathered the akpobi (courage) to live alone, how can you make the best of it?

Make rules.

You know how frustrating it was to live by other people’s rules? Now I’m here telling you to make rules. I must be a killjoy right?

But here’s the thing about rules.

Rules are made not out of spite for the ruled or because some people are just control freaks, rules are made for the sake of order, to avoid chaos.

So, make your own rules.

Make them so that you don’t run wild and ruin your life and abuse your newly acquired freedom.

These rules will emanate from your core values.

This means you have to ask yourself serious questions

Do some soul searching

What are my core values?

What is the kind of life I would like to lead/live?

What is of importance to me?

What are my boundaries?  

When you get those answers, you can use them as a guide to setting ground rules for your house/self

For someone like me that dislikes night hangouts, is introverted, enjoys privacy, etc

I have rules of, no late nights; no overnight guests unless it’s an emergency; no sleeping over in neighbor’s house; no dating neighbor; etc

My colleagues don’t even know where I live. Don’t be like me o.

There are also rules like; sanitation every Friday evening, eating out every fortnight, no overnight dirty plates, travelling every other month, girls night out every last Saturday, sleepovers, read two  books every month, etc

These rules are in place to curb one’s excesses as every human has those and to define your life path.

This period also gives you the time to save energy, resources and time towards achieving your set goals.

You have the time to study all morning without having to wake up to do chores or make breakfast for the family.

You can decide to live frugally and save money for a certain project you have in mind as compared to when living with your parents and having to contribute to the house.

You have the time and space for your creativity to blossom without being interrupted to go and run some errand for your folks.

You can be able to measure your growth and productivity.

The time and privacy you buy for yourself while living alone is just amazing.

There’s no running back home or constantly explaining yourself to people or having to consider too many factors before doing anything.

Living alone is just bliss, if you utilize it.

The thought of paying bills alone will ginger you to be productive and make more money as compare to eating free food and free rent in your parent’s house.

Try also, not to break your own rules or bend them for someone else.

The rules could also including other habits like your reading pattern, eating habits, your self-improvement regime, your hygiene, relationships, etc

Trust me on this; rules help us live our best lives

Just imagine if anything goes for you; life will be chaotic.  

You might move in alone, next you have three girls squatting with you that you can’t chase, you have your neighbors marching in and out of your house whenever they please, you have maybe your boyfriend coming to live with you or you going to live with him, you’re sleeping with three of your neighbors, your house is constantly in a mess, your performance at work or school begins to  deteriorate because of lack of discipline, you’re keeping extremely late nights, there are no security tips you live by, then your parents walk into your house unannounced one day, what will they think of you?

Well, it is not our portion in Jesus name.

General closing remarks

·         Not everyone should know where you live; your house is not a hotel

·         Be security conscious

·         The values you develop this period will guide you for life

·         You will appreciate your parents for the basic bills they’ve been paying for you all your life

·         This period will teach you the value of money, budgeting, saving, etc, unless you have plenty sugar daddies

·         No matter how short the period was, you will be grateful for the experience

·         The life you lead in this period might attract your kind

·         There are many times you’ll break your own rules but don’t be discouraged, you’ll learn from those mistakes and you’ll grow

·         There are days you will cry and pack your things to go back home but don’t worry you will stop crying and unpack your things later

·         Whenever things become overwhelming, take a break, somewhere. Maybe home sef. Come back later and continue from where you left off.

In the end, you’ll find your balance and all will be fine.

Please tell me how living alone has been for you, in the comment section

Love, Deedee

XOXO