stories&nuggets

Now that you must have gathered the akpobi (courage) to live alone, how can you make the best of it? Make rules. You know how frustrating it was to live by other people’s rules? Now I’m here telling you to make rules. I must be a killjoy right? But here’s the thing about rules. Rules are made not out of spite for the ruled or because some people are just control freaks, rules are made for the sake of order, to avoid chaos. So, make your own rules. Make them so that you don’t run wild and ruin your life and abuse your newly acquired freedom. These rules will emanate from your core values. This means you have to ask yourself serious questions Do some soul searching What are my core values? What is the kind of life I would like to lead/live? What is of importance to me? What are my boundaries?   When you get those answers, you can use them as a guide to setting ground rules for your house/self For someone like me that dislikes night hangouts, is introv...

Not every time, “Honey take me out na, let’s go for that festival.” “Baby, when last did you take me out?” or Girls’ trip! Boys’ trip! Sometimes take yourself out; go out alone. Reasons why;   It affords you the liberty of doing what you want to do without considering another person’s idiosyncrasies. You’ll have the opportunity to meet new people and spontaneously try new things. It gives you the chance to be independent and enjoy your own company. It’s like walking into a strange beautiful room with blindfolds on….not a dangerous room biko…. there are possibilities of the unexpected which is what life is generally about. It would teach you to stand on your own and be comfortable with your decision and watch the outcomes unfold.This is not really just about a festival. It’s about your life. It can be therapeutic. Can help you find yourself too, in case you are the type that is easily knowingly or unknowingly influenced by your surrounding (friend...