stories&nuggets

Buckets I’ve never really liked them First thing that comes to mind when that word is mentioned is Boarding school Imiringi Those iron buckets (as we called them) that seniors give you to fetch water with after which you see red swollen lines on your frail palms after two rounds Or When we as children had to go across the road to fetch water with paint buckets to fill our drum at home because we hadn’t dug a borehole yet….it was a few years after mama kicked the bucket Another bucket again I never understood why everyone was crying I thought they said she went to heaven, probably on an errand…maybe Jesus wanted to feature her in his new song Because the last letter we wrote her got a reply of “I am well now. I will soon be with you again. Last night was the best night of my life. I was singing with the angels in heaven” I got to realize a few months later that she kicked the bucket Damn you bucket  Damn you. So that’s why I never had

Nice pictures don’t make you a beautiful person Trendy clothes don’t make you an important person They are nothing but candy to the eyes It is the way you have affected (positive) a soul that makes you beautiful They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder Who is the beholder? The person who has benefited off your love and influence in their lives I see a lot of “I love the woman I’m becoming” posts on the media Accompanied by amazing digital photographs Hey! Stop there!   This isn’t about the female gender But let me ask. This woman you are becoming Is she the one that now (whether she can afford it or not) wears makeup, trendy clothes, accessories to match and money to do a photo shoot? And is that all she is? News flash! Anyone can do and be that Even the bible says, let our adorning not be in the wearing of jewelries and expensive cloths but in the quality of our heart, our spirit, our character. This translates to, “It is not the outwar

Two things we have absolutely no control over The same things that bring JOY and SADNESS BIRTH and DEATH                          BIRTH  A child never asked to be born Only an application from both parents is sent With a probability of acceptance or rejection And a thanks in anticipation                        DEATH  A man never really asks or expects to die He may play a part that leads to his demise But it truly never is in his hands This phenomenon is activated or controlled by GOD/NATURE/THE UNSEEN SUPREME FORCE You open your eyes one day to life on earth You close your eyes another day to oblivion However, there is something we have control over The space between BIRTH and DEATH Let’s focus on this thing we can control So when DEATH comes in its usual way, you wouldn’t feel cheated   Because you know you gave it your best shot Love, Deedee XOXO

So I went for the test. The HIV test I mean. I hadn’t been tested in over two years so I decided to visit UPTH and get it done. Like I mentioned in one of the episodes on SIT, most people have a long list of reasons why it is not necessary to do a test including not having the virus. But here are a few things I learnt from going to get tested. The procedure for testing is in four stages: Pre-test counseling The test The result  Post-test counseling The overall takes not more than 20 minutes. No matter how confident you are of you're status, a few seconds before the session, you're likely to get goose bumps  Just look at me  Extra tip: go with a friend if you’re scared and please be honest with the health personnel. During the pre-test counseling, I was asked personal, intimate and embarrassing questions. But I had to be honest. And the session helped me know my wrong practices and resolve to do better. A few of the questions I can remember are: